posted 12-07-2006 06:39 PM               

I think we need a thread devoted to those questions. I personally believe this thread, could save many from embarassment, and maybe even from making mistakes.

I think this thread could be of good use, if we follow a couple rules:
1)No ridiculing someone's question. Or someone's answer. If you don't agree with the advice, or answer someone else gave, just post what you think it the better reponse is. The person who asked the question can then decide on their own, which response, they personally think suits there situation.
2) Ask anything. Advice, homework, outfits, descions, anything.
3)If you are uncomfortable with the question asked, don't answer. A reply could break rule 1.
4)Have fun?

I have a question;

I have a teacher. He is very cool. And I think he and I get along great. But lately I have been kind of down, and I think I may have taken it out on him.

I haven't been acting myself. Just yesterday I was walking by his classroom, and I could see him smiling, preparing to say hello, and I put my head down pretending not to see him, and kept going.

At the time I didn't think anything of it. I was too busy wallowing in self pity.
But now, I feel horrible.

He has caught my eye a couple times in the last couple days, and when he did, he looked a combination of worried, and sad.

I think he was afraid he was losing the only student in the classroom who respected him.

He has been acting diffrent, and I realize it is my fault. He probaly thinks he did something wrong. But he didn't. And no matter how bad my mood is tommorw, I want to show him that.

So I was thinking about asking for a pass to his classroom for study hall. I hate my study hall classroom, and he is fine with me coming in. I just thought it would be a nice way of saying, I am not angry. At all.
And maybe even get the chance to talk to him.

I personally think it is a good idea. He knows of my hatred for my classroom that block, and would be fine with it. But what if I get there, and he doesn't say a thing? I just sit there. Bored out of my mind, and myabe even ultimatly, making a fool of myself.

Is it worth going through with? Or should I just leave it alone? Anyone got any good conversation topics?
Thanks in advance.

posted 12-07-2006 06:51 PM               

Ok, my turn. I've been kind of...ok, really depressed lately, which results in my eating very minimal amounts of food. This has only been going on for about a week, but everyone (friends, parents, people from church, everyone) is constantly concerned with my eating habbitts and are always trying to shove food down my throat. Due to my anorexic past, I can't really blame them, but it is getting really old really fast. How do I convince everyone that I am not anorexic and avoid the topic of "Have you eaten lunch yet today?" in every conversation?

posted 12-07-2006 06:56 PM            

Like I said before; I think it's a fine and mgihty idea. I don't think he won't say anything. I think he'll try and make conversation; or at least you should try and make conversation. I don't think it'll be akward if he's fine with you coming in all the time; honestly. I think it's a good idea.

Oh and by the way; great idea for a thread.

And i have no questions for the moment.

posted 12-07-2006 07:07 PM               

Your study hall plan seems like it should work.

Also, is this the teacher you had a certain *ahem* question about before?

posted 12-07-2006 07:09 PM               

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Originally posted by Yero the Hero:

Also, is this the teacher you had a certain *ahem* question about before?

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Haha. Yero, I think you caught me. Although I can't remeber the question, it was probaly about him.

Thank you all. I will definatly ask for a pass for tommorw. And, for Alex, I will not worry about it as much.
I am still not sure what to say once I am there, but I am sure something will come to me eventually.

Spawn; I think you should try and make a point to eat just a little something when you are around those who worry about you.
Ask a friend to lunch. Or to have a cup of coffee with you. Maybe even carry a granola bar in your purse, in case you are hungry. It will make them feel better to actually witness you eating. Eventually they will drop it.
Show them you are eating, even if its not a lot.
Gain their trust, and have a nice time out with them. It will make you feel much better I am sure.

posted 12-07-2006 08:04 PM            

What does it mean when you catch the guy you like looking at you across the room?

I really, really want to get to know him. He doesn't talk much (most likely because of the afformentioned reason). He's really cute, and has the most unbelievable smile. And I think i might also be attracted to him because my geometry teacher picks on him.

In class, I caught him looking at me... I was looking at him just for the sake of looking at him, and then our eyes meet. Probably the most... confusing moment of my life.

posted 12-07-2006 08:23 PM               

slightlyconfuzzled, I don't want to burst your bubble, but I also don't want you to get your hopes up. That little bit of eye contact was probaly nothing. Think about it, how many times do you make eye contact throughout the day with people by accident, or without any intention?
Maybe you don't do it a lot, but I do. I make eye contact with people I hardly know on sereval times a day.
Maybe he was looking at something behind you, saw something move and looked towards it. It just happened to be you turning your head. And then he caught your eye.
I am a very pesimistic person, so don't take what I say too seriously. Just keep it in the back of your mind, as a possibility.

Its always nice to catch that someone specials eye. He may not be madly in love with you, but maybe he was just checking you out a bit.
In this situation it could go many many ways. Sorry slightlyconfuzzled.

posted 12-07-2006 08:59 PM            

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Originally posted by The Scarecrow:
Sorry slightlyconfuzzled.

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Nah, that's OK. My hopes were never really high in the first place. :P And I thought this too, but then my friends were like "Oooh he LIIIIKES you", and were being very annoying about the whole thing, they weren't being honest at all.

Thanks for your input!

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[QUOTE] Originally Posted my The Scarecrow:
It just happened to be you turning your head. And then he caught your eye.

Now I just want to say this...
He was already looking at me when I looked at him. Just said that because I'm not entirely sure what you meant...

posted 12-08-2006 04:34 PM               

Anyway, I know he's in Baghdad right now, and I sent him the following email:

I wish I didn't miss you.

But I do.

A lot.

I don't think it's too much to ask, I could be wrong...keep in touch. Please. I know this sounds crazy and stupid...but I don't want to lose you (as a friend, stop thinking all morbidly). And I think I might have already.

With love,

"Skank"

Before you ask, "Skank" is somewhat an affectionate term he has for me...like "jackass" or "asshole" is an affectionate term I have for him.

posted 12-08-2006 06:46 PM               

As for my question.

How far is too far to go to improve your own self image?

On a scale of one to one hundred my self esteem level is right aobut a negative five. I see no redeming features, not in personality or body. And I'm sick of hating myself. So I'm trying to loose weight. But the best way I can think of to do it is just stop eating... or eat nothing but the special nutrisystem food. Nothing but water. I want to loose 80 pounds. I think that would... be almost sufficient. I know that however much weight I lose I'll still look at myself in the mirror and wish I was different. Every time I go clothes shopping I end up breaking down in the dressing room, because I'm so ugly, so fat, so... disgusting. I just want a good body and good looks... I hate that I can't ever look in a mirror with out wanting to retch in sheer shame. So I ask you... should I try to live up to my own standards (I've hurt myself before trying) or should I just live with myself the way I am? If I lose the 80 pounds I want... I'll be well under the reccomended weight for my height and body type... and I don't care. I'll probably look sick, but I bet I'll still find myslef fat and ugly. I don't know what to do... I'm smart enough to know what I want could hurt me... but I still can't stop wnating it. I want to be skinny... desirable, pretty, because the personality isn't going to get any better.

posted 12-08-2006 07:44 PM               

If you really want to lose weight, though, I can tell you how. I used to be...a little...um...chubby....(don't tell anyone!) and one summer I just said to myself "I am losing this weight." And in two months I lost 21.5 lbs. First, start an exercise regiment. 30 minutes of cardio is absoluetley necessary, but during the winter it may be hard. Running is ideal, but I cycled and it was just as good. Then, I did 30 minutes of yoga and ten minutes of sit-ups and other various exercises. This doesn't need to be done concurrently; cardio in the morning, sit-ups etc. in the afternoon and yoga in the evening. That's goods for exercise. If you don't want to do yoga, you can skip that part, but it is a good odea.

Next, diet! Now, you don't need to crash, and you shouldn't, but try to definitely cut down on fats (especially from meat and dairy products; Omega3 fatty acids from fish are good for you, so fish may be a good idea) and carbs. If you need to have carbs, like bread and pasta, only eat whole-wheat. STAY AWAY FROM WHITE BREADS. Period. Calorie cutting is good, but most people don't go over their limit very often. The less calories from fat, the better. Dark leafy greens are essential. And, unless you're trying to build muscle, protein isn't essential.

It's hard at first, but it's really the best way to improve your physical image.

Now, your spirit. Meditate. 30 mintues everyday. You can even do it while doing yoga. The best idea is to buy a book on it, because I couldn't go into detail now...But, it will help with your self-esteem and self-image. Also, do the "mountain pose" for about five minutes a day. This is when you stand, your spine erect, arms down at your side, chin up and feet together. This improves your posture and the way others view you.

I hope this helps! Good luck!

posted 12-08-2006 09:40 PM            

This is a deep-seated psychological issue. You need to tell your physician what you are going through, and he or she can direct to a specialist who will help you resolve this problem. You do need to find a good psychologist or psychiatrist to help you through this, it does not sound like something you should go through on your own.

There is no shame in that at all--everyone needs help sometimes.

With regard to the weight issue, throw that "eighty pounds" out the window. Do not hurt yourself. You are worth more than that.

There is nothing wrong, as has been said, about wanting to lose weight, but it should be for appropriate reasons; you would like more energy, you would like to improve your health, you would like greater self-satisfaction.

Never should thoughts like "I am so ugly" or "I am disgusting" or "No one will ever find me attractive" go through your mind. If they do, on a regular basis, that is a psychological problem that needs to be addressed.

Losing weight is a different experience for everyone. While your eating habits almost certainly need adjustment, you should never have to "starve yourself" just to achieve or maintain a healthy weight. Try different kinds of exercises and find something fun. Look at other weight-loss programs apart from Nutrisystem, read some reputable literature--talk to you doctor, he or she will know how to help you.

It often helps to exercise with friends--you know, take walks, go on bike rides, maybe go to a gym--and it may be a good idea to join a group such as Weight Watchers.

And set reasonable goals for yourself. If you are roughly thirty pounds overweight, for example, do not set thirty pounds as your goal. Psychologically, that number seems so big and unattainable--but if you break it down into components it will become much easier to deal with.

Set your goal at two pounds, for example. Whe you lose those two pounds, set your goal at two pounds again, and so on, until you are where you want to be.

posted 12-09-2006 03:08 AM               

Everyday she bitches me out hardcore early in the day, then says sorry later in the day. She got the lead in the musical because she does the Audrey voice, however she is incapable of any other part. She plays "audrey" for every role. However she has taken to bragging to my good friends that they have no chance at any part because she gets the leads. I understand her being happy with success, but it is unbearable.

She tells people at our school that we are "bff's" and screams my name and hugs me while yelling "glomp" in the hallways. If I am walking to class or talking to friends, she will walk up be hind my and grab my hand or put her head on my shoulder. The last thing i need in a judgmental highschool where everyone knows everyone is people thinking we are together.

posted 12-09-2006 02:26 PM               

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Originally posted by LPhiBah:
OKay here is my very random question. How do you measure a drag queens voice? Like in RENT would Angel be...?

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posted 12-09-2006 09:44 PM            

Is it against the rules of this thread to post a new question before the previous one is answered? Hope not...

posted 12-09-2006 10:15 PM               

"Kiss the girl" is good, but most Disney songs aren't really chorus songs. I know I used to do some Disney songs in my chorus, and they sounded awful to me.

posted 12-09-2006 10:31 PM            

But since it's just the two of us, and since we are both decent singers, I think singing a Disney song would be fine. Plus, we get to sing along with our iPods. And my friend sings waaaay better when she can't hear herself. She becomes less self-concious or something.

posted 12-09-2006 10:39 PM            

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Originally posted by slightlyconfuzzled:
And my friend sings waaaay better when she can't hear herself. She becomes less self-concious or something.

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That happens with me too. I'm not sure about the better part, but I get louder.

posted 12-10-2006 02:26 PM               

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Originally posted by Yero the Hero:
Personally, I would choose "Poor Unfortunate Sould" but that isn't very upbeat.

"Kiss the girl" is good, but most Disney songs aren't really chorus songs. I know I used to do some Disney songs in my chorus, and they sounded awful to me.

I'll try and think of a group Disney song, so it doesn't sound as odd.

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My choir did an arrangement of Beauty and the Beast when we sang at Disneyland and I found it absolutely gorgeous. One of my favorites that we performed.

posted 12-11-2006 07:02 PM               

I'm sure someone will be able to educate me on the subject, but I have always found it strange that currency is backed up by gold or silver. Why is this? Aside from aesthetic value, precious metals serve no real purpose, at least none I've come across. I mean, through this mentality that something is valuable because it is rare and shiny, couldn't, in essence, currency be backed up by certain Pokemon cards?

(I realize this must sound terribly ignorant, but it never ceases to amaze me that a whole nation's currency could be backed up by jewelrey.)

posted 12-11-2006 07:24 PM               

Every US dollar is supposed to be backed by gold. That means that in Fort Knox (and elsewhere) there should be enough gold for every dollar.

Remember gold was used as currency before. Bills are actually bank notes. Promisary notes... I.O.U.s bascially. You would take your gold to the bank, and they would give you a note. If you wanted to, you could use that note to pay for goods. Similar to checks I guess, since the person who ended up with the note would have to go to the specific bank to cash it in.

posted 12-11-2006 09:57 PM            

I know usually I'm the one to try to help and I usually don't feel the need to talk about anything too personal, but I experienced something Saturday that scared me so much and I really feel the need to talk about it and hopefully get some responses from anyone with similar experiences and/or advice.

I spent the weekend with my boyfriend and we went to go to bed Saturday night. While I was pretty tired, I decided to sleep, and he put a dvd in. Only about 10 minutes went by and he shut the movie off. I was still awake, so when I asked him why he turned it off, he just said he didn't want to keep me up. After a bit of explaining that he wasn't keeping me up, he started getting really mad at me, calling me a b*tch and other bad names. Then he proceeded to tell me he was sleeping on the couch and walked out of the room. Of course I followed him trying to get an explanation and he wouldn't talk to me. So I sat there for a little while and he fell right asleep. I went back to the bedroom and laid awake for a good amount of time. Then, about an hour or so later, I heard him get up to go to the bathroom. The first odd thing that occured was that he didn't flush the toilet when he was finished... not like him at all. When he exited the bathroom, I heard him fumbling with the locks on the apartment door for a good 30 seconds. Then he walked out and shut the door behind him. I freaked out and jumped out of bed to find out where he was going (it was about 1am at this point). I flung the door open to find him standing there in the hallway, completely nude, with the most terrified look on his face. When I asked him what he was doing he mumbled something about checking to see hallway somethingorother. Then he went back to the couch and fell back asleep....

(Edited to clarify a bit.) I ended up grabbing some blankets and camped out on the floor next to him because I was too afraid to leave him alone. He finally woke up around 4:30 (I was still awake) and he was kind of confused why he was on the couch in the first place, let alone why I was there. I explained what happened, and he remembered leaving the apartment, but he didn't remember getting mad at me. It turned out he had a bad dream and was really mad at me in his dream, and was talking in his sleep.

I deduced that he was sleepwalking, which has occured a number of times for him, as his father suffered it too, but it has never happened when we've spent the nights together which has happened a lot. Should I be extremely worried? I'm so terrified that I feel like I can't leave him alone at night anymore. I mean, I haven't been able to stop thinking about what would've happened had I not been wide awake trying to figure out why he was mad at me. What would've happened had the door locked behind him, or if he tried to go down the stairs and fell and seriously hurt himself. Or worse, get locked outside in the nude since the door to the building locks automatically. I read that it's extremely uncommon in adults, but does then fact that it runs in his family make a difference? I also read that it can be caused by reactions to medicines and medicines mixed with alcohol. He did take a small allergy medication earlier in the day that made him pretty loopy and drowsy, but it's one of those "take one every 4-6 hours" and it had been much longer than 6 hours since he took it. Plus he drank a six pack that night... kind of a lot for most people's standards, but not for him (he's a full blood Irish boy).

So anyway... I'm utterly terrified that I'm not by his side tonight to make sure he comes back to bed after getting up to use the bathroom... and I hate the feeling of being scared for his life.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

posted 12-12-2006 07:27 AM            

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Originally posted by jerseyminx:
I'm guessing one this, because I know I have learned about this but I'm not 100 % sure...

Every US dollar is supposed to be backed by gold. That means that in Fort Knox (and elsewhere) there should be enough gold for every dollar.

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That is not true anymore, and has not been since--I believe--the thirties or forties.

Today there are far too many bills in circulation for them to be backed by gold. Our money is not backed by anything--we are literally attributed an idea of worth to little paper notes, and, with the advent of credit, to nothing at all.