posted 12-12-2006 05:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Glinda in a bubble:
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Sorry I never saw this post - I watch Smallville! It was the 4th episode called "Arrow" where he and Lois went to a fundraiser and a necklace Martha was wearing was stolen by him.. Clark investigates and finds out eho it is. Here is the website: http://www.cwtv.com/shows/smallville

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Bah-hah! Thank you very much GaB! (The omission of the i is purposeful, because I'm a fan of nicknames.)

posted 12-12-2006 05:58 PM               

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Originally posted by Greenery:
I got asked a weird question today...this girl who I think I like was sitting next to me in biology and asked if I could look into her eyes for a couple seconds. So I did and she just nodded and said thanks. It was rather odd. I just felt like sharing that.

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That is indeed very weird.
*shudders* Biology. Ick.

I have a question! What ever became of that thread... where we were doing Elphaba artwork? When helen had the rawr-ing monkey and everything. Did we pick a winner on that? I looked for it yesterday, but couldn't find it. And I learned how to draw last week because I was grounded... XD

Also, I agree with MH about the bartering system.

I personally believe that we should all live on subsistence farming and make our own clothes (or go without ) and do away with all the craziness in the world. :]

posted 12-12-2006 07:08 PM               

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Originally posted by Yero my hero:
That is indeed very weird.
*shudders* Biology. Ick.

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Yeah, it kind of creeped me out a little bit. But it also made me happy because she has very pretty eyes...haha.

Biology=ick!

posted 12-12-2006 08:34 PM               

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Originally posted by LPhiBah:
Is it weird to want to paint myself green again like I did at Halloween because I am stressed becuase of finals? Seriously the last few nights I have had dreams about doing it and I REALLY REALLY want to.

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posted 12-12-2006 10:37 PM            

Oh hmm that is odd grennery.. like really odd.

posted 12-13-2006 01:11 PM               

So there are currently two guys right now that I'm pretty attracted to. Only problem is they both are taken. Now, believe me, I am not a homewrecker, I accept the fact that they have girlfriends and I am perfectly content being their friends.

Yet both have exhibited extremely flirty behavior with me, putting me in an awkward situation, because my knee-jerk reaction is to flirt back, but then I feel guilty.

I'm not asking if there's anything "there" or if there's any hope or anything, but I'm just wondering why guys feel the need to do it. Is it just part of them being male?

posted 12-13-2006 08:19 PM            

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Originally posted by munchkin:
I'm not a guy so maybe I can't be much help, but I think when people have boyfriends/girlfriends they flirt in a different way to when they're single. It's meaningless flirting; they feel more comfortable doing it because they know it's not going to go anywhere.

That might not be the same in your case, it's just what I've found from experience.

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That makes a lot of sense. Unless the guys you are interested in are jerks, which i highly doubt because then you wouldn't be interested in them.

I need tips with flirting. I really have no clue as to how to flirt. Any advice?

posted 12-13-2006 09:08 PM            

In any case, you should not have to "flirt" to initiate an intimate relationship.

If someone catches your fancy, just talk to him and get to know him, and proceed from there. And if you are in high school--or younger--keep your relationships in perspective, if you must "date". Do not over-romanticize them or take them too seriously--and do keep them platonic.

posted 12-13-2006 09:43 PM               

I agree, I think those in the 12-13-14-15 range don't "date", or at least shouldn't call it that. But you'd be hard pressed to find a person that is older that hasn't said or done something to let someone whom they think is attractive know that they are interested.

posted 12-14-2006 02:27 PM               

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Originally posted by jerseyminx:
You have a point PaN, but it does vary from person to person. If a guy tried to use a line on me, seriously, then he wouldn't get very far. However if he did it jokingly to make me laugh, I'd give him a shot.

Best line ever! "I lost my teddy bear, can I sleep with you tonight?"

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YES!!! I have always loved that one!!! It's so corny/sweet/funny...and I agree on the making you laugh thing too I lessthanthree you, Jersey!

posted 12-14-2006 02:31 PM            

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Originally posted by jerseyminx:
Best line ever! "I lost my teddy bear, can I sleep with you tonight?"

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*baaarf*

Oh. Excuse me.

Haha.

No, but seriously, I just detest lines. Whether they're used in jest or not. I prefer a guy who can make me laugh without having to go there. I usually don't find them humorous anyway.

posted 12-14-2006 08:18 PM            

Attempts to think of an odd question. Oh here's one; why do guys have such a blantently digustingly sex-driven sense of humor? Anyone, any takers?

posted 12-14-2006 09:17 PM               

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Originally posted by Saint Aelphaba:
Good question.

Attempts to think of an odd question. Oh here's one; why do guys have such a blantently digustingly sex-driven sense of humor? Anyone, any takers?

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Lack of self confidence. To act like a man apparently makes you a man... Other than that, they say guys think about sex like every 2 seconds. I think testosterone probably plays a part. Lets out some sexual tension or something to talk pervertedly. Don't think anything of it, they will grow out of it. Or you can hope at least haha...

I have a question. Every time I go by my dad he complains about how he's gonna have to starve cuz of child support. Then talks about how my mother is an insane bitch.

posted 12-14-2006 09:19 PM               

And, just to note, Scarecrow's and St. A's posts exemplify why I am proud to be a gay man.

posted 12-14-2006 11:56 PM               

The sexually driven humor is far from being a strictly male thing. The vast majority of people I know joke about sex. It depends on a person's sense of humor as to whether or not they find that kind of thing funny or not. I think sex can be a very funny topic. I hate South Park. It's a matter of opinion.

*waits for the comments about it being lowclass or other stuff similar that she doesn't really care about*

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MTO I missed the last part of your post until now...

Wow, sounds like my dad. He complains that my mom owes him money, how he's broke. But he goes out to dinner, or will go have a beer down the street, and bought a new car when he really didn't need to (or could have found a cheaper car with lower payments)

Can you try talking to him straight? Telling him how you feel? If he's ready to "disown" you then what is there to lose? I have a really hard time talking to my dad about how I feel though...

posted 12-15-2006 12:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Saint Aelphaba:
Attempts to think of an odd question. Oh here's one; why do guys have such a blantently digustingly sex-driven sense of humor? Anyone, any takers?

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I think part of it is hormones out of control, but I think the other part is that society just hasn't done a very good job of helping young heterosexual men figure out how they're supposed to talk about sex. On one hand we say respect women, be a gentlemen, treat her well, but on the other we pelt them with shamelessly sexual Victoria's Secret commercials, encourage them to "sow their wild oats," and produce "news" reports about how being "a man's man" and a "retrosexual" is back in style this year. Those seem like a lot of conflicting messages to me, so it's no wonder they don't know what to do. It's not just the teenage hormone thing either, because I know guys in their early thirties who still haven't figured out how to talk about sex without acting like idiots. So I really think the kind of crude humor you're talking about, St. A, mostly stems from confusion and insecurity and a misguided attempt to "try to be a man."

posted 12-15-2006 09:35 AM            

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Originally posted by The Scarecrow:
So, to the women of the boards; on a scale of 1 to 10, how bad does doing "the deed" hurt, for the first time?

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Since jersey was the only one who answered, I'll toss my two cents as well.

It really depends on the person. I was 16 (I know, I know, so young...) and I made my boyfriend stop immediately because it hurt so bad (but I will say it was just a very quick sharp pain, it was gone almost as quickly as it came). Then... about a month later we attempted again and I didn't feel one ounce of pain.

So, you'll probably get a different response from each person. But I would only rate it probably a 6. I think it hurt more because I wasn't emotionally ready to handle it. If that even makes sense.

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Originally posted by MusicalTheatreObsessed:
Lack of self confidence. To act like a man apparently makes you a man... Other than that, they say guys think about sex like every 2 seconds.

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This is actually a widely unknown common misconception. According to the Kinsey Institute, "54% of men think about sex everyday or several times a day, 43% a few times per month or a few times per week, and 4% less than once a month (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994)." So while there is no known time span, the research shows that men aren't widely sexually driven.

posted 12-31-2006 11:45 PM               

See, New Years is a sensitive time for me, and every year friends want me to celebrate.

Well how do I say "no thank you I do not celebrate" without being like "look damn it my mother died on new years eve and I don't wanna party about it" and have them understand.

It seems, every year, without fail I anger someone because I do not want to go out...

I'm just asking. What is your advice on avoiding the same arguement year after year with my friends.

Should I give up and just go out, though I won't have a good time?

I've told them why... and they just forget. I don't want to keep saying it every year, because I don't want to seem as though I'm looking for pity.

posted 01-01-2007 01:38 AM               

"Hi everyone. I will not be celebrating New Years this year. Please respect this as this has been a problem in years past. Thanks."

Something simple. Something to the point. And lastly keep in mind that if they are angry with you ver something as small as you not wanting to play on New Years then Maybe they aren't the best friends to have. Now if it was you don't want to go to one of their weddings that is a whole different thing. And I can't see you doing that.

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posted 01-01-2007 10:49 AM               

The problem is I have several groups of friends, and they just all asumme that if I say "I don't want to" that I'm going with another friend. And they get jealous/mad because "it's not fair that I always choose them" which I do not... I spend the most time with my best friends, but I do see everyone pretty much equally.

I mean, Brittney understands, but she's never the one thorowing the new years parties.

I'd still like a few more ideas, a memo might get laughed at. Though maybe a myspace bulletin or two, starting the week before. And I simply don't want to outright lie to my friends.

posted 01-02-2007 01:39 AM               

LP- did you have yours pulled or surgically removed? I had my taken out surgically (yay for teeth growing sideways) and had vicodin for the following weekend (they were taken out on a Thursday.) By Monday I was pretty much fine, although I still had the gaps but no pain. The stitches seemed to last less than a week, except for the one side that was left too long so I kept messing with it and it came out the next day. I do heal quickly though.