posted 07-03-2010 09:17 AM               

quote:

---

Originally posted by helenbooktrip:
what is love?

---

posted 07-03-2010 12:30 PM            

------------------
Kike Lzn
"You say Wicked like it's a bad thing."

posted 07-03-2010 01:35 PM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by Kike720:
Q1: who likes Justin beiber? Not me.... Q2: who has a facebook so I can friend them? Helen? History? And anyone else?(;

---

posted 07-03-2010 08:01 PM               

quote:

---

Originally posted by Kike720:
Q1: who likes Justin beiber? Not me.... Q2: who has a facebook so I can friend them? Helen? History? And anyone else?(;

---

A1: i like justen beiber. he is canadian and he songs are catchy. especially "eenie meenie" with sean kingston. THERE, i confessed. but i do not in any way have Beiber Fever.

A2: i do have facebook, but i am very picky about the people i "friend". i have family members and close friends on there and an inate instinct to protect them. so i dont share facebook with just anyone. sorry. and if you're offended by that (which you shouldn't be), too bad. but thank you, i am flattered that you would want to trade facebooks.

------------------

posted 07-08-2010 06:31 PM            

And I would agree with Minxy about your situation. I have a similar problem, not as bad though (I have a little brother who is a psychopath when he gets mad or gets hurt). If I were you, I wouldn't do anything to make your half-brother mad. That would probably make the situation worse. Tell someone you trust outside the family.

posted 07-09-2010 09:16 AM            

quote:

---

Originally posted by helenbooktrip:
Kike, please do not listen to History. Not doing anything is how situations get worse. People need to know that what they are doing is not right and you don't want to enable this behaviour by doing nothing. Don't be passive about this. If its as serious as you make it sound, takes Minxy's advice. Tell a teacher or someone like that. But do NOT do something dumb to get "revenge". Leave it to the professionals.

---

posted 07-11-2010 06:58 PM               

quote:

---

Originally posted by Kike720:
To Topic:
I have an older brother who is 18 and lives at my house with my mother and sister. Over an ugly divorce I want to live with my Dad. "Kevin" my half brother, continuesly calls me names and bad words infront of my 10 yr. old sister.I hate him and want to kill him. He phisically(sp?) abuses us and I call the police, but they don't do anything. He is an adult and should be put in jail.
Problem: He goes into my room and trashes my things spilling things everywere, and i can't get a lick. My mother does NOTHING. he is threatening to hurt my dogs and throw my stuff out. I want to get him, bad, what do you reccomend?> ), and before you think I am fully evil and come at me, ask me a questin.

---

Now this makes me angry. How can he get away with this??? Yes, listen to History and Helen and Minxy: get some serious butt-kicking help. That will be your revenge, my friend. > )

posted 10-15-2010 06:52 PM               

if it makes you uncomfortable thinkng of your sister reading that part of the story...well maybe just try not to think about it. if your sister is younger than you, than its probably a safe bet that she will not find anything overly inappropriate since she might not completely understand it.

also, that part of the lovely bones story is actually not all that long and not all that graphic either if i remember correctly.

my biggest piece of advice regarding this subject...i am strong believer in not sheltering kids. yes to a certain extent you have to protect them from things they are not mature enough to handle. but i think that when it comes to things like sexual education and ssex in general, you cant shelter kids. if they dont know about these things, then they will find out by themselves and that is when bad things happen. am i making sense? i hope i explained that properly.

i also understand that i have never actually raised a child and i welcome the moms on this board to give me their opinions on what i've said above.

so Kike, so summarise, i say let it be and let your sister discover these things in a healthy way (like reading). I hope that helps you out Kike.

------------------

posted 11-05-2010 12:31 AM            

And it will always be hard to trust somebody. But the first person you have to trust is yourself. You have to trust yourself that no matter what happens, you will be strong enough to be okay in the end, be it good or bad. Once you full on trust somebody, you let them into your shield of steel protective bubble, risking being hurt emotionally. That's why it's hard AND that's why you need to have more trust in yourself that you are strong enough to risk it.

And my brother always tells me, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."
And they always say, "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."
Love applies to friends and lovers. So if this person means that much to you for you to consider letting your guard down for them, take the chance. You never know till you try and if it didn't work, you'll only come out stronger and wiser.

posted 11-06-2010 06:44 PM               

if you like her a as a person, why not try talking to her alone once? like catch her in the hallway or something and just her how she's doing. tell her you think she's cool and even after the awkwardness of the date proposal, you just wanna be friendly with her and consider each other friends.

am i making sense? does that help a bit?

posted 11-08-2010 01:15 AM            

But sometimes girls like her need someone to show some interest, even just as a friend. I used to be like her, too shy to approach anyone. Before I needed someone else to make the first move. Heck, I can still be like that now. So you can either help nudge her into society a little, or leave her be.

posted 11-11-2010 06:54 PM            

"The Bumbling Oaf"

posted 11-12-2010 10:45 AM            

Here's a Wicked poem I wrote the other day within about ten mintues. It's sort of a Gelphie poem...I guess...if you want it to be.

***Warning, possible Wicked spoiler if you have not read it!***

"The Bond"

In a dark room, two girls.
In both heads, thoughts swirl.
The tension that they create
Will soon unseparate.

On shifts in her silk gown
And admires on the other a frown
That she wishes would smile
And make her go wild.

The other girl, deep in her book
Bears a second to look
At the gold curls upon the other's head
And the pink softness of the bed.

They catch each other's eyes.
They both wonder why
The other won't make
A move that would brake
The resistance that is most fake.

For one, the tension was a bit much.
She walked, scooted and such
Into the covers of the bed
That belonged to the girl
With raven hair on her head.

Arms entwined
Thoughts combined
The girls were both fond
Of this magical, yet
Twisted bond.

posted 11-16-2010 03:10 PM               

*In The Blue Sky*

On her broom
She rode and sat
All her hair
Was in her hat

Sometimes up and
Sometimes down
Be very aware
When she's in town

Always true
And never shy
She embarks alone
Up in the blue sky...

**There! I hope you liiike it!**

posted 11-16-2010 10:51 PM            

Here's one, hope it doesn't totally blow!
(By the way, reckon this poem-sharing business is a really fun idea!)

I have a pair of kaleidoscopes latched onto my eyes
With the world distorted and mixed, I see through it's disguise
Purple, green, pink, gray, and many shades of blue
In these new lights I see the truth - I even see through you
Everyone has a person living deep within themselves
Never seen and soon a reflection in a dried-up well
Why do we alter who we are in order to run and hide?
I suppose it's because people stare with heavy and suspecting eyes
So now the question's why do we have eyes that always judge?
We know that just by looking, other people wouldn't know us
But what I notice most with this contraption on my head
Is that rather than kaleidoscopes, people use microscopes instead
They focus on the little things - petty, trivial, and small
Their minds are closed to what they know, and it's not the big picture at all
Life's not about what shoes you have and if they match your clothes
I think it's more imperative that your actions suit your soul
They look and want and yearn and desire for what they cannot possess
They morph into artificial beings with no hope for personal success
If only you could find yourself and liberate your mind
You'll realise everything you needed was with you all the time
So see the world from different angles, lights, and points of view
And maybe we'll come to learn that all you need to be is you

posted 11-17-2010 11:01 AM               

However, I warn you that this is a very long, very personal, and very sad story. You may or may not actually want to read.

Anyway, as many of you know my parents both died when I was about 11-12 years old. Well, I have an older cousin (19 years older than me) who was very close with my mother as she grew up and who took the loss very hard.

Well now, almost 12 years later, my cousin has decided that I am responsible and that she is going to go out of her way to inform all of my family and friends.

About nine months after my father passed my mother died by suicide in December of 1998 just days after my 12th birthday. She shot herself in a chest while my brother (13 at the time) and I hid outside in fear that she's use the weapon on us. It's a sad truth, but the truth.

Nobody can really chronicle this other than myself, my brother, and a friend that my mother was on the phone with at the time of the suicide. See, we lived an unusual lifestyle-- my parents pretty much hermitted our family on 22acres of land in a small town off a beaten path. Neither worked and we weren't friendly with neighbors. My brother and I were home schooled. So, really, nobody really even knew anything about us.

We were able to live this lifestyle because my parents were moderately well off and were very wise investors. Also, having waited until their 40's to have children, they had a nest-egg saved.

My cousin, now a 42 year old woman, is a severe alcoholic who refuse to get a job. She is losing her home, unfortunately, to forclosure. And while I would absolutely love to help her there are 2 things holding me back. 1, I really can't afford it. and 2, if she refuses to work I really feel it would only hurt her to bail her out of this situation. And 3, I would have to lose my home to do so. Where would my soon to be husband and I live?

Well, because of the way the financial papers and stuff were written my brother and I were left with sums of money. About 100k each. Which, we've both used in different ways. Myslf to pay for college, my brother in some less frugle ways. However, about 2 years into college I decided that I would save the remainder of the money my parents left to me for my own children and their college funds. Though I don't have children yet, it has always been a goal. So, I work to pay for tuition and my bills.

My cousin was left none of that money because her mother was expected to provide for her. And also while my brother and I were 12 and 13 at the time my cousin was a 30 year old woman.

Recently (in March) my grandmother passed away. Her finances were divided into two categories: A trust fund set up by her late husband's brother, and her personal assets.

Her personal assets: In her words were to be used by the grandchildren (William, Kimberly--the cousin, and Myself) strictly for educational purposes and/or for rehab.

The Trust: Was divided (before my grandfather even died 30 years ago) between my mother and her sister. Being that my mother passed away her share was passed down to my brother and I and divided into two parts. My cousin, however, is lucky enough to still have a living mother. So, she recieved none of that money. And she will not until the time when her mother passes away.

Now, my cousin has used about 80% of the money from my grandma's personal assets on a private college education. Which, she now is unable to use because she can't pass drug test and frequently shows up at job interviews drunk. My brother and I have chosen to leave the other 20% in case one of the three of us really need the money. (IE, we're leaving it in the hopes that our cousin will use it for rehab.)

So, in the end, my cousin feels she got shafted because when our grandmother died she recieved absolutely no finances. Also, she's very angry at me because while she's losing a home I am building one.

I don't feel the need to apologize for, A. using my money wisely, and B. making something happy come from something so sad.

Here's where it really gets bad though, because she's so angry about being left out. And, beccause she's spent about the last 4 months sipping on a vodka bottle (and, I wish I was hyperbolizing, I'm not), she's decided that I did all of this intentionally. She has been calling me daily threatening me, accusing me, and being down-right horrible. Saying the only thing I've ever loved is money and some other MUCH more horrible things. Not only that, but she's been calling pretty much everyone close to me and saying the same things. And, leaving such comments on Facebook or whatever.

I understand that she's sick (the alcoholism and the grief over her home)... but, what can I do about this?

I won't stand for being told that I didn't love my parents, that I don't care about my grandma, and that I'm a theif who stole everything from her.

I would give it all back to have the people I lost in my life again.

posted 11-17-2010 07:04 PM               

My advise... The only way I can give you an answer is to put myself into your shoes. I believe that firstly I would try my best to smooth things over by meeting her and talking her down, so to speak. She would probably become enraged, which is why you shouldn't go alone. (I mean a real visit, because over the phone she could hang up. But maybe this isn't a good idea because it could become dangerous.) But if she just doesn't listen to reason and is stubborn and angry--and she continues harrassing and threatening you--I would feel like the only way to deal with the problem would be to report to the police. I know she is family and that sounds like a major betrayal but the problem will most likely continue unless you do something to stop it. Im sorry If I sound stupid, but thats probably what I would do in your situation. Once again I am sorry you have to deal with everything that is happening to you and I hope you'll find a solution that works best for you.

posted 11-17-2010 08:00 PM            

My advice: Take action!! >D A.Go to your relatives that your cousin talks too. Confront them about the situation and explain what's up. Your cousin will give up talking if no one is there to hear her.

B. I don't exactly recommend confronting someone who is intoxicated. So get a policeman. Talk to him/her about your circumstance, a law enforcement officer will warn her. That should scare her.

Take care! Hope
Im of Helpp!!

posted 11-18-2010 04:45 AM               

I think, if it were me, I would try to sort it out without involving the police in the first instance. Where does your cousin's mother stand in all this? Does she know what's happening, and if not can you go to her and explain? I don't think it's fair that your cousin takes all your grandmother's money but if you and your brother are happy for it to be used for her rehab then let it be known, and when she is ready hopefully she will use it. That can't happen until she acknowledges the problem for herself though.

I don't really know what else to suggest. But if it can't be worked out and you are feeling threatened then go to the police. She's not allowed to do what she's doing, and if she wasn't family then I'm guessing you would have called the authorities in already.

I hope you can work it out very soon, please keep us updated. And if you want to talk to someone more privately then I'm here.

posted 11-18-2010 07:29 AM               

Meanwhile, the conversations have gone much better than expected. And actually quite a bit more calmly on both sides than I thiought.

THEN, the attcks seem to be getting worse after each conversation.

posted 11-18-2010 08:28 PM               

i'm warning you now, this is going be some tough love...

you say now that the conversations are getting better with her, but afterwards she is still horrible. this leads me to the conclusion that there is no point in trying to talk to her. this might sound harsh, but the first thing i would do it un-friend her on facebook and any other social networks you might share with her. do not answer her calls, texts, etc.
i am a strong believer in spending your time and energy only on the people who you enjoy spending time and energy on. people who you love and love back to you. people who are as good to you as you are to them. we are adults now and we do not need to put up with childish, rude, ungrateful and unacceptable behaviour. if i were you, i would cut her out of your life. i know this is hard because she is family and you love her...but she is not the cousin or the person you knew before. she is messed up and unless you can literally help her back to who she used to be...then forget her. she is a grown woman who needs to be responsible for herself. it looks like the alcoholism has braught up some repressed feelings she had about the loss of your mother. that is unfortunate and very sad. but unless she cleans up and wants to deal with her grief in a manner that is civilsed and healthy, she needs to take care of it herself. you have your own life now and it is good and it is in the direction that you chose for it to go and that you like. you are up. she is down. that is not your fault or your problem. cut her off and get on with your happiness. when/if she is ready to act like a civilised human being and be kind to you again, she will make the effort in contacting you. until then...i say it's not your problem. you have done nothing illegal or irresponsible. you made your choices. she made hers. you each have to live with the outcome of your own choices. people in general need to start taking responsibility for themselves and stop blaming other people for their misfortunes. if you are unhappy with the way your life is going, then do something about. she needs to be control of her life and i hope that eventually she will realise that. end of story.

i love you.