posted 02-27-2008 08:14 PM               

MTO: *hugs*

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posted 02-27-2008 08:34 PM               

i do enjoy a good pair of grey eyes though. sexy!

posted 02-28-2008 10:23 PM            

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originally posted by lostladyknight:
MTO: *hugs*

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Me too.

posted 02-28-2008 11:02 PM               

Ya know, my dad says that the best way to win something is to try again each time you fall. Get up, write a long letter about how you think you'd be perfect for their program and how you'd be the best student ever, and send copies to the entire school board. You know, the dry crackly old guys that WISH they could be as awesome as you are.

posted 02-29-2008 08:43 AM            

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Originally posted by MusicalTheatreObsessed:
So a couple weeks ago I received a letter from the U of Minnesota school of music stating that I was accepted with scholarship to study oboe. Since then I have found out I wasn't accepted to the college, just the school of music. Besides the fact that I adore the oboe professor, love the school, thought I had a scholarship coming, and had this as my number one school choice, I also have a significant other who attends the U. I guess, I don't really know how to deal with this. How do I tell the guy I care so much about that all our plans mean shit now... I felt so confident that the big city school was the place for me... All the other schools I applied to are in much much much smaller areas. I don't want to settle for seconds. I don't even know if there is a question in there... I held back tears for a six hour shift in customer service tonight, and I haven't stopped crying since I got home... What's going to make me feel better?

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I could give you a story that is sort of similar. When my brother was applying for colleges (something like 7 years ago) he had his heart sent on Bentley, one of the top business schools in the country. To keep a long story short, he didn't get in. He had only applied to one other school, so that's where he ended up. Well, he just wasn't satisfied so he re-applied to Bentley to transfer after his first semester. He went in for an interview and again, was denied. He pretty much told them, "It'd be in your best interest to accept me sooner rather than later because I'm going to keep on applying until you accept me, even if it's for my last semester senior year." So when his first year of college ended, he again applied to begin his sophomore year there. Not sure what transpired between the end of his first semester and the summer, but they accepted him for his second year.

I think you just need to stay positive and be persistent. It may mean that you'll have to go somewhere else for a little while, but do it and kick ass at it. When you reapply for U. Minnesota, they'll see from your transcipts what an amazing student you are paired with your persistence and you'll likely impress them enough to get in. Colleges want student that want to be there. There's no better way to prove that than persistence.

That's my story.

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posted 02-29-2008 11:09 PM               

It was very much needed, and I'm feeling a bit more positive. It also occurred to me that another person is a terrible reason to want to go to a school, so I shouldn't feel bad just because our plans together aren't going to work out.

posted 03-14-2008 07:02 PM               

Okay, since my start at college, I have this friend--more or less my best friend (we're married on facebook for god's sake) and we've been really really close since September.

Well, lately (this week, really) she's been acting really bitchy to me. Kicking my chair, making fun of me (but "just kidding" about it) and kind of avoiding me.

Now, I'm kinda insecure sometimes, so it might be nothing, but it really seems like something's up. I mean, maybe she's on her period and I shouldn't worry about it, or maybe it's because of the two tests we've taken this week, I've gotten an A and she's failed both. Not that i rubbed it in her face, but, I mean...how could I not tell her?

Maybe I'm just overreacting and I don't really know what anyone can say, but it just feels good to vent to someone about it.

posted 03-17-2008 08:45 AM               

I have this friend who I've known since my sopohmore year of high school. She didn't date, at all, until she got to college. Now she's had 2 boyfriends, the first of which she almost married after just a few months. Now she's in another relationship and he recently asked her if she would mind if they brought another person into the relationship. Not wanting to let him down she said yes. Now I won't go in to the insecurity issues I think she's having.

So now they are in a three way relationship. Gilbert, the boyfriend, has two girlfriends. Liz, my friend, has a boyfriend and a girlfriend. Jennifer, the other girl, has a boyfriend and a girlfriend.

This is weird to me. I have no problem with Liz dating a guy or a girl or whatever. I adore her and I will always adore her. I just don't know how I feel about her being involved with two people at once. Not that it's really even my place to have feelings about her relationships. I just don't like it. I'm into monogamy. But now I've got to get comfortable with my friend's boyfriend and her girlfriend which is a lot to adjust to.

I guess I'm not really asking what I should do about it. I'm going to support her and love her just the same as before. As long as she's happy I can adjust to something new. What I'm really asking is what all of you think of the idea of a three-way relationship? Am I the only one struggling to be open to the idea?

ETA: One more quesiton.

She hasn't told any of our other friends yet. Just me. I know that she's afraid of telling them because of the various reactions they're going to have. Mostly one friend is likely going to yell at her and call her stupid for giving in to Gilbert's wishes. She won't even think that maybe Liz liked the idea. Any ideas as to how I can help smooth over the process of telling them?

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posted 03-17-2008 01:04 PM            

That's just my opinion, because my only personal experience was when a guy wanted to date me and I knew he was with two other girls at one time, and how they ended up was really sad.

Other experience was when a couple of my friends did that with the same guy and I could tell that from what they told me he was holding back from one and it hurt the entire relationship, because they both cared for him very deeply. I'd go so far as love, but I'm not certain, and it just hurt them more when he got caught having an emotional affair with another girl, because he betrayed them both. So basically it ended up with the girls mirroring their pain in one another until neither of them could stand to be in the room with him or each other.

Oh, and the poor girl he was having the emotional affair* with was a complete social wreck afterwards because everyone labeled her as a mean-spirited, foolish, slutty girl and she was basically picked on for the longest time. I eventually just got sick of all the harsh feelings being thrown at her and defended her one day, so people let up. I don't know how she she is now that I've transferred schools, but I think I was the only ally she had at that school. Poor chica... sevvies can be cruel little punks sometimes.

*What I mean by 'emotional affair'was that he was flirting pretty heavily with her, and he continued to harrass her for a date, and he even asked her to the prom. Eventually rumors spread about them having a physical relationship, (which I always knew in my gut wasn't true, 'cause she wasn't that kind of girl,) and my friends caught a whiff of it and all the sh** hit the fan.

posted 03-26-2008 09:51 PM               

It costs about $2,500 and is 10 days in New York,NY at Fordham University. There are different speakers (such as a producer), field trips, and other things.

Some of the field trips, speakers, etc may include:

posted 04-18-2008 04:16 PM               

Apparently, I am an irresponsible nusance and will most likely come back from this with some sort of mental capability reducing habit, lose my virginity ( are they really that crazy?) or some other really stupid thing that they could only think up with the help of Dr. Laura Schlessinger. They just frustrate me so much sometimes, usually I don't even get mad at them anymore, I just feel really sad and that whatever opinions I have are worthless to them.

I've lied once or twice, but I've never done something that's really serious enough for them to think that of me.

Still, what do I know? I'm just a smart teenage girl.

posted 04-18-2008 08:56 PM            

Question. If somebody asks you "Are you my friend?" and you really don't want to say yes but you don't want to hurt their feelings- what do you do? How the heck do you answer a question like that?

posted 04-18-2008 09:04 PM               

Nessa, how much would it bother you if they stopped talking to you?

posted 04-21-2008 06:19 PM               

Currently my name is Matthew Scott Lucas.

Any suggestions would be sooooooo very much appreciated. I really have no ideas of what to change it to. Though, nothing especially ethnic or fancy because I am very nearly as white as they come.

posted 04-21-2008 08:04 PM               

Or you could make it Purvis and be like my long lost brother. :) That would be cute.

Or... something with literary meaning.

Maguire. (j/k on this one actually)
Wilde. (My choice, actually.)
Frost.
Shakespeare.

Most of those were a joke. Actually... all but Wilde. But... you get my jist.

My *real* suggestion is to make Scott your last name.

Just go by Matthew Scott and don't have a middle name anymore. Or change the order around to be Matthew Lucas Scott (though I imagine you're trying to abolish Lucas alltogether.)

Or pick a new middle name. I'm partial to Aaron. :)

Hope that I helped, even a little. I'm only being half-serious.

So, my suggestions are: Wilde, Scott, or Purvis!

:D

posted 04-21-2008 08:44 PM               

I was going to change my name to Wilde at one point. That's fabulous.

I realize I'm only giving commentary and not offering up choices, and I'll explain why:

For a long while now, I've been wanting to change my name as well, frankly because my current name is too long, too ethnic, and too difficult to spell and pronounce. So, I made the decision that I would change my name if I really wanted to. I made a list, showed it to everyone, and asked for advice. In the end, though, it didn't matter; whatever someone else says, I think you'll always know it was not your concept, and therefore, you'd be living with the shadow of someone else's name over you for the rest of your life.

So, ultimately, the name shoudl come from you, in my opinion.

posted 04-21-2008 08:55 PM               

I can't think of anything, and nothing could be worse than this name. I've despised it for years, and would be very content using the advice of others. Especially the lot of you since you aren't someone I'll see each day who would be around to remind everyone that it was their idea...

Wilde was my favorite of Kathy's suggestions... but isn't taking a famous name sort of taboo?

posted 04-21-2008 09:05 PM               

Or sparkles. Think about it.

posted 04-21-2008 09:40 PM               

Yth's points are exactly why I was only being half serious.

I was going to change my name in high school from Purvis to McCracken. In the end I decided that I was born a Purvis and that's what I should always be. So what if the name connected me to a past I wasn't proud of and didn't want to advirtise? It also connected me to who I was then and who I would become.

It was my decision that the name I already had was right for me. IF you want to change it Matt, well then that's up to you.

Matthew Aaron Scott is very country club, I agree. But.. I like the surname Scott quite a bit. Aaron is just a name I've always favored for a middle name.

I never expected any of my suggestions to actually be what you changed your name to.

And as Yth said, Wilde would be PERFECT if you jazzed up the font a bit.

posted 05-04-2008 05:44 PM               

Is 6 years a long enough sentence for a serial rapist?

posted 05-04-2008 07:51 PM               

MTO, what your mothers maiden name? why don't you use that? or is there a relative you're especially close to, like a grandparent or cousin or sibling? you could use thier first name as your new last name.